For weddings that are celebrated on the coast, a substitute for a Unity Candle during the service may be the Sand Ceremony, a beautiful and meaningful addition to marriage vows. Three containers are used, one for the bride and one for the groom from which they pour their sand into the third which symbolizes the new life being created at this moment. Plain sand is obviously available on the beach, or colored sand is available at most craft stores. Small glass bottles or vials are usually found in those stores as well. A nice touch is to pour the colored sands into a small “heart-shaped” bottle. Later, some wax can be melted to seal it and hold the sand in place, then seal it with a cork or lid. Names of the bride and groom and the wedding date can be etched into the glass bottle prior to the ceremony. After the minister reads the text, bride and groom pour their containers of sand into the third container simultaneously. Some may wish to leave a small amount of sand in each container to symbolize that although you are now joined as one, you each remain individuals.
N. & N., you have just sealed your relationship by the exchanging of vows and by the giving and receiving of rings. This covenant is pledge between two people who agree that they will commit themselves to each other for the rest of their lives. Today, this covenant is symbolized through the pouring of your two individual containers of sand into one. As these two containers of sand are poured into the third container, the individual containers of sand will no longer exist, but will be joined together as one. Just as these grains of sand can never be divided again neither shall your love be divided.
The Bride and Groom pick up the containers of sand and pour them together.
N. & N., today you are making a life-long commitment to share the rest of your lives with each other. Your relationship is symbolized through the pouring of these two individual containers of sand; each representing all that you were, all that you are, and all that you will ever be. Each one holds its own unique beauty, strength, and character. They can stand on their own and be whole, without the need of anything else. When the two are blended together they represent an entirely new and extraordinary love relationship. Each grain of sand brings to the mixture a lasting beauty that forever enriches the combination.
The Bride and Groom pick up the containers of sand
Blend the sand together now. Just as the grains of sand can never be separated and poured again into the individual containers, so may your marriage be.
#3 – When Children Are Involved
N. & N., today you are making a life-long commitment to share the rest of your lives with each other and honor your children as well. family relationship is symbolized through the pouring of these two individual containers of sand; each representing all that you were, all that you are, and all that you will ever be and another container for each child. There are children who will share in this marriage. _________ will now come forward to help us with the Blending of the Sands.
The gathering of this new family will have a deep influence upon each individual. In order for the home to be a happy one, it is essential that there be love and understanding between the children and the adults being married. As you each hold your sand, the separate containers represent your lives to this moment; individual and unique. As you now combine your sand together, your lives also join together as one family. You may now blend the sand together symbolizing the uniting of the children and bride and groom into one.
Just as these grains of sand can never be separated and poured again into the individual containers, so may your marriage and your family be.