Rock Ceremony

rock-containerThis offers a substitute for the Unity Candle for weddings celebrated outdoors where wind is always a threat to blow candles out. As guests arrive, they are provided a small, smooth stone and an appropriate writing instrument (e.g., a sharpie) with which they are asked to write well wishes or blessings for the couple and their new life together. Depending upon which the Bride and Groom prefer, this can be done at the beginning of the celebration or near its conclusion after the announcement of marriage. The stones are placed in a clear glass container (which may have been engraved with the couple’s names and wedding date). The Bride and Groom also place stones in the container with their own sentiments written on them. At the appropriate time in the ceremony Dr. Leininger says…

N., N., before you met, your lives were on different paths with different destinations. But love has brought you together and joined these separate paths into one. Each one of your family and friends here today has been given a small polished stone upon which they have been asked to write their own wish for your future happiness together. The individual stones represent the unique personalities gathered here today as well as the unique experiences your two lives bring to this union.

Now those stones are gathered and placed together, just as your separate lives are now joined together in marriage. As the stones and their blessings are now together, so are your friends and family joined through you. Your once solitary life’s paths are now also one. All that was once separate is now shared, and in this sharing you both will find new strength and joy to face whatever the future might hold, because whatever you encounter, you will face it together.